Tip #9 Crafting Your Erotic Date Using Your Erotic Menu (game/exercise/experience)
Tip # 9 of 9. Sex is so much more than you may imagine
We’ve come to the final tip of this series on Crafting Your Erotic Date. One door closes and another opens. Become a paid subscriber for $5 a month and do a deep dive into Your Erotic Menu over the next couple of months with me. Your Erotic Dates will never be the same!
Learn more at the end of this article.
Who are you, really?
In Tip# 8 we talked about the importance of novelty. In this final Tip #9, I’ll give you novelty based on what’s real for YOU!
In my experience of talking to couples, I have found most have not explored the answer to this question, “who am I”, when it comes to their erotic life.
I invite you to become a beginner again by exploring new forms of intimacy and authentic erotic expression.
I encourage you to engage in conversations that help you grow as a couple and help you become increasingly comfortable in your sexuality, whatever flavor it happens to be.
Sexual empowerment means learning who you are sexually and teaching your partner how to love you the way you want to be loved.
Note that our desires can change over time. Couples in long-term love can shift and grow in their paths to arousal or turn-on. There’s no right or wrong way to express your eroticism as an individual or a couple.
What works for some doesn’t work for others. In the world of healthy sexuality, we learn to leave our judgments at the door! The more you learn about the fascinating world of human sexuality, the more at ease you’ll be with your own explorations.
“Who am I?”
This question is probably most urgent in our teens and twenties as we develop our identity in the world. We have a deep need to belong, find our place in community, and join with others who accept us.
Our sexuality is a big part of that exploration, with pressures coming from all directions to conform to a sexual identity that is both socially acceptable within our tribe and true to who we know ourselves to be on the inside.
If we’re lucky we can experience both.
However, our sexual explorations often end once we think we’ve found our answer, and that can happen far too soon! Social norms, bad sex education, expectations from lovers — even our own resignation and frustration — can halt our sexual explorations and fulfillment.
We end up seeing our sexuality through the narrow lens of what life has given us, either in our lack of exposure, our partner’s preferences, or our own perspective of what’s “right or wrong.” Too often, couples find themselves settling into a sexual routine that dulls their enthusiasm and stunts their growth. “My partner and I aren’t sexually matched,” is a common refrain.
Let’s go deeper into Your Erotic Menu so you and your partner can meet all 6 flavors of your beautiful erotic selves. Yes, they all live inside of us. Become a paid supporter of The Turned-On Couple Community to be part of this exploration.
Kicking Off The Turned-On Couple Members Program
This is my formal invitation to ya’ll to become a paid subscriber to The Turned-On Couple for $5 a month (yup, the price of a coffee!) or $60 a year.
Many of you have been with me for years as loyal readers. I’m so grateful to be part of your personal inbox every week.
I want to know you better!
As a supporting member of the Turned-On Couple Community, you’ll receive:
access to my weekly deep dives for paid subscribers where I write about what keeps love, passion and pleasure alive in a long-term relationships, starting with the Your Erotic Menu experience for curious couples.
Each week we’ll explore all 6 of the sexual flavors that live inside every one of us. You’ll be able to comment, ask questions, and share your experiences.
As least become a supporting member for a couple of months as we dive into all the value you’ll find in Your Erotic Menu. It’ll cost you $10 ($5/mo) and you’ll come away with skills that will change your sex life, no question.
I hope you join me in this new members program. I promise to bring my whole self to this project and make your valuable dollars more than worth it for you and your relationship!
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(Founding members ($180) will be offered private a one-hour coaching session with me. ($250 value) No selling, just invaluable advice :)
Let’s take it to the next level. Let’s build a community of support and learning that will enlighten and inspire you and your partner to live life turned-on to passion, pleasure and growth.
With gratitude and excitement.
Corinne :)